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Am I Allowed to Date While Separated?

So, you and your spouse have made the decision to get divorced. You’re both on the same page and agree that the marriage can’t be saved. So now it’s time to move on, right? Well, not so fast. Admittedly, this is a period where you may feel “stuck.” You are waiting out the required one year of separation (or 6-months if there are no kids involved), and you feel ready to “reinvent” yourself – ready to move on and get on with your life.

But, in the Court’s eyes, what are you allowed to do in terms of dating?

While I don’t have to tell you that dating while separated is risky, it is ultimately your decision. Technically, as far as the Court is concerned, you are still married by law. My advice is to be very cautious about the situation and don’t jump in to anything too quickly. The most important thing, however, is whether or not there are children involved. If you have decided that you are, in fact, ready to be “back on the market,” and you do have minor children, please take their feelings into consideration before introducing them to your new boyfriend or girlfriend. The divorce process is likely extremely confusing and emotional for all children involved and jumping into a relationship could upset them.

All in all, it is your decision whether or not you decide to date while separated. As long as you know the risks, you can date, but of course, use your best judgement. If you have any questions about dating while separated, feel free to give us a call at 757-656-1000 or send us an email at and we will be happy to schedule a time for you to speak with an attorney to help clear up any confusion or discuss your situation with you.

For more information about the separation process and all that comes with it, check out our blog posts!