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What Do We Tell the Children?

Tips for Talking to Your Children About Your Divorce Sarah and John tried everything to save their marriage: counseling, vacations, even a trial separation. Yet the fights continued. So, after nights of one or the other sleeping in the guest room, after days of crying, talking, and soul searching, the couple realized that divorce was their last, best option. Although …

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The Question Must be Why NOT Try Mediation?

In any legal dispute, to include divorces, Mediation is an option you can use to minimize your costs in terms of legal fees, to maintain more control over what happens to you, and to more likely get to a more satisfactory result. In a divorce, for example, a lot is at stake: all your property and your children–and your life …

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What is a Thrift Savings Plan, and Who Owns It Now?

The Thrift Savings Plan (TSP) is a retirement plan for Federal employees and uniformed service members similar to a civilian “401(k)” plan. Why does it matter if I have a TSP account? During your divorce, your TSP matters because the Court may divide it during an equitable distribution hearing.  An equitable distribution hearing is when the Court determines how the …

What is Spousal Support, and What’s the Law?

Spousal support, often known more commonly as alimony, is used not to punish one spouse, but to support a financially dependent spouse in the event of a pending divorce and/or after a divorce.  Spousal support can be established either by an agreement between the divorcing parties or upon award by the Court.  In Virginia, there is no “right” to spousal …

What is Child Support & How Do I Get It?

Child support is the monetary obligation that a noncustodial parent/responsible party (parent who does not have physical custody of their child) pays to the parent who does (custodial parent).  In Virginia, both parents are financially responsible for the child, but the law presumes that the parent with whom the child is living provides for many of the child’s financial needs, …

Do You REALLY Need an Attorney During a Divorce?

While it is possible to pursue a divorce without an attorney to represent you, legal issues involving family and children can often get heated, and complex, even out of control, very quickly. An experienced family law attorney can typically foresee and warn you about potential complications that often occur to better prepare you to avoid problems or to respond positively to those …

I Never Thought I’d be Getting a Divorce – What Do I Do Now?

Getting a divorce involves a radical re-framing of life for most people. For years perhaps, you have been planning a future with your spouse — and a divorce changes ALL of those plans in one single day. It is normal to have feelings of loss, or to be bombarded by new and unfamiliar emotions during a divorce. Yep, even for …

Can My Spouse Claim Retirement Benefits in a Divorce?

When you’re getting a divorce, you may wonder if your spouse has a claim on any of your retirement benefits. Or you may hope that you can claim a share of the family’s retirement benefits because you did not factor a divorce into your life plan until recently, and you have been counting on those benefits for your retirement.  For …